When no one's looking [part 2 of 3]

Hey friends!

 

Yesterday I shared part 1 of a 3 part series with you called ‘When no one’s looking.’

 

I covered Being Your Word in part 1.

 

Today I’m covering Doing Your Best.

 

I’m talking about the small things and how they feather into the big ones.

 

Small ones, I’m going to use a Realtor as an example.

 

Why a Realtor?

 

Because generally speaking (at least from the dozens and dozens of Realtors I know), Realtors are what I’d call high performers.

• They set big goals
• They work on their character
• They are committed to personal development
• They understand human behavior
• And how they perform for their clients has a significant impact in their client’s lives.

 

So, I got an email from a Realtor recently who was showing us a property and in the automatic “PS” section of her email, it said “Please forgive my typos, I’m on an iphone.”

 

I’ve received that message a thousand times from people of all walks of life, not just a Realtor, and I’m sure you have as well.

 

And I’m calling it forward to use as an example, not to be judgy…

 

That’s not your best.

 

It’s a pre-decided excuse to NOT be your best.

 

Being your best would look like proofreading the email you are about to send, correcting the typos, and then hitting send. Essentially, representing yourself as your best, which not only sends a certain signal to those reading, but it also reflects something about the way you think.

 

It’s just an example so stay with me.

 

Being your best is a moment to moment thing.

 

And although I’m calling out that Realtor to illustrate a point, this is more about you examining how you are operating in your life, and noticing the areas that stand out to you where you are not being your best.

 

It’s a personal thing. Like...

• Making your bed in the morning
  Flossing your teeth
  Doing one more rep during a workout
  Cutting corners while cleaning your house
  Keeping your car clean
  Connecting with someone you love

I don’t know what it looks like for you.

 

The thing is, you know if you’ve been your best or not. You know before anyone else. And, you know much more intimately where you are being your best and where you aren’t.

 

Others know too.

 

But you know the most.

 

And just like with being your word, when you are not your best, it affects your confidence, how you interact with others, and your willingness to go after and create what deeply matters to you, or not.

 

The connection I’m making between the small stuff to the big stuff is this…

 

Let's say you cut corners on something small like not making your bed…

• First, what is the subtle inner dialog that has you not making your bed? (Maybe: I’m tired, it’s early, it’s too much work, it’s good enough, I’ll do it later, etc)
   
• Second, in what other situations does that inner dialog creep into your mind? (Maybe: At work, on a project, in an interaction with someone else, with personal goals, etc.)

At the end of the day, this is about standards that you set for yourself.

 

It’s not about being perfect. It’s about your inner knowing of what you COULD do and what you DO do.

 

Whatever is in the gap between what you COULD do and what you DO do is an opportunity for growth.

 

Practicing this transfers into everything that you do.

 

That phrase “How you do one thing is how you do everything” really applies here.

 

If you half-ass getting ready for work in the morning, what else are you half-assing? (Maybe your relationships, your passions, your self care? Only you know.)

 

There’s an energy to this, just like an energy to Being Your Word.

 

When you can walk through your day knowing that you did your best, what does that do to your confidence? To your energy? To the way you interact with others? To your enthusiasm?

 

And the same question when you know that you aren’t doing your best, how does that affect your confidence? Energy? How you interact with others? Your enthusiasm?

 

Look, this is not an opportunity to beat yourself up or anything like that.

 

It’s a growth opportunity.

 

So if you catch your inner dialog being harsh to yourself, can you take a breath, and be kind to yourself instead?

 

If you have been feeling stuck in any aspect of your life, this is a powerful area to shine a light on (with compassion).

 

When you start to do your best on the little things, especially when no one’s looking and it’s just you and you, it has the power to radically shift the way you think and operate in your life.

 

Maybe this is the thing, or a piece of the puzzle, to you creating the life that you deeply want.

 

The universe, spirit, God or whatever word works for you, will give you more of what you put out.

 

When you put out your best effort, you will be rewarded.

 

Hit reply if you want to share.

 

I’ll be back tomorrow with part 3 Attitude.

 

Shawn

 

PS- This will be a consistent focus over the 9 months of my Inner Game Mastery coaching program. If you can see value in...

Learning to keep your promises to yourself and to others
Delivering on what you declare (and also declaring massive results in your life)
Then Inner Game Mastery would be a great experience for you.

If that resonates, hit reply with "Inner Game" in the subject line and we'll hop on a call to discuss.

 

PPS- I'll be hosting a LIVE workshop this Friday on this exact topic. Look for a registration page coming soon. The workshop will be this Friday (11/4) from 11-12:30p (Mountain Standard Time)